LEARNING TO SAY NO. NOT JUST TO DRUGS


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I am learning to let go of my past but there are still those who choose to hold on to theirs. They continually try to make me feel guilty about it and constantly throw it in my face.

There was a time in my life when it worked. I would feel guilty or bad about things I have done and would try to make things better by always saying yes to whatever demands were being made. I would do things against my will for the sake of attempting to make peace.

I realize today that I was not helping the situation or healing myself. I was in reality being held prisoner by my past and being manipulated by those individuals. I also realize today that I cannot change the past. I cannot erase what happened by being a yes man. I have to move past it, apologize when I can and not be made to feel like I owe someone because of it.

If I have made ammends and someone doesn’t accept it, that is not on me. It is no longer my responsibility to continue to try to make it right. I will not be held hostage by anyone because they will not forgive me.

I have learned to say NO. Regardless of how I feel. I am learning that I cannot keep being a slave of my past by trying to make things right in the present.

Just for today I will not feel guilty because I said no. I will set boundaries and continue to find balance in my life. With or without you.

Peace and Blessings

Eric Ease

8 thoughts on “LEARNING TO SAY NO. NOT JUST TO DRUGS

  1. Excellent blog Eric! I was always feeling guilty and was stuck in the past because I kept listening to others who kept judging me by my past instead of looking at who I am in the present. Be proud of you and all you’ve accomplished. You are a constant inspiration to many. You have come one hell of a long way on a very difficult road. Kudos my friend. Hope you have a fabulous weekend.

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    • Thank you Vicky. I appreciate your support. I am grateful that you and others can relate to my posts. It’s a constant reminder that I am not alone. I am at a convention in Ocean City Maryland right now and I plan on having a great time. I hope you have a great weekend also. Peace and blessings my friend. 🙂

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  2. Other people’s inability to forgive is of no concern if you have made amends my friend. I have this discussion with my mother all the time. She doesn’t understand to heal our selves we have to forgive. She doesn’t understand to let go of things we can never change ( the past) only holds up our future and positivity and healing. So that’s why we have to continually do what is right for us, forgive those that do not understand or do us wrongs because we don’t have control over them or their behaviour only our own. We then become the positive forces in the lives of those around us. It’s not for us to explain ourselves – let them take what is useful and leave what isn’t – we can only lead by example – when we have the serenity they can only dream of they too will learn to forgive. Stay strong you have achieved more than many keep on forgiving them that can’t forgive you, or want to pull you backwards. You are a very inpiring insightful man with much to give and I thank you again for sharing so I too can learn from your journey ☺️

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    • You’re absolutely right Karen. If they can’t let it go its not my concern. I made my amends and thats all I can do. I refuse to continue to hold the guilt and give them power. I can and will move on without them. Thank you for sharing this and for your continued support and encouragement.

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    • Thank you Juan. Its sad that people expect me to keep paying for something that is long over but I refuse to keep holding on to the guilt. I will let them stew in it but I refuse to participate any longer.

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  3. CONGRATULATIONS Eric. That is a major step in life. And hopefully when others see you moving on in a positive manner, and not allowing yourself to be pulled down or backwards again, they will realize they can change as well.
    God’s Blessings my Friend. Keep on keeping on, and keep growing.

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