“The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation, but your thoughts about it. Be aware of the thoughts you are thinking.”
― Eckhart Tolle

For a long time I lived a very unhappy life. I was miserable and in turn I made everyone else around me miserable too. The quote “Misery Loves Company ” is absolutely true. I lived by the thought
IF I CAN’T BE HAPPY NO ONE ELSE SHOULD BE EITHER. I wanted everyone to be unhappy like me. I couldn’t stand to see others smiling and having a good time. I was definitely a hater.

I didn’t understand then, what I know now. I know that I cannot trust my own thinking sometimes. Left to my own devices and my thinking patterns I would wallow in self pity, anger, resentment and despair. I would never take chances or risks for fear of being vulnerable or ridiculed. I would complain about everything and anything and I would still be a miserable, angry and alone.

I know that my thoughts can make or break how I feel about any of the millions of situations that go through my mind on a daily basis. I have learned that I can change how I feel by changing how I think. I am learning to block negative thoughts and replace them with positive ones. I have also learned that negative thoughts come and go but today I do not have to act off them. That was a eye opener. I was so used to acting off impulse that it was second nature.

Today I practice pausing and evaluating situations. I practice being upbeat and helpful. Today I practice a new way of life and I am seeing some amazing results. Don’t get me wrong. Every day is not magically delicious. I go through the wringer just like everyone else. Some days more than everyone else. The difference lies in how I choose to look at the situations and how I choose to respond to them.

Right now life is good. I am happy in my own skin. I am happy where I am and how my life is turning out. There isn’t a problem or situation that I cannot get through. I believe that.


Peace and Blessings

Eric Ease


  1. Eric you amaze me. I’m so happy you are finding your way in life. Like you said you are the only one that can change that. Some people blame others their entire life. They just don’t want to take responsible for their actions. Positive additude makes a huge different how you deal with life. I know it’s hard some days but we need to be thankful for what we got. You are the only one that can change your life. And you are doing a great job of that. Not smoking getting easier? One time you said you was in the hospital waiting for x-rays. Hope everything came out alright.

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    • Thank you Iris. It’s a learning experience and I am grateful to be on this journey. The smoking is still about the same I haven’t made the final step yet. The x-ray came back no major damage doc said it probably mild arthritis. I am on a workout program. Thank you for asking. Have a blessed day.


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